Being sexually active is a big decision and one that should be considered carefully. A sexual relationship can be very rewarding and satisfying when it is lawful and consensual.

Take the time to make the right decision for you, think about whether this relationship is for now or forever. Being “in love” with someone doesn’t mean that you have to be sexually active with them; relationships can be satisfying without sex.

Some things that you might like to consider when deciding whether or not you want to have sex in your relationship are whether:

• it is legal - the age of consent in Northern Ireland for males and females is 17;
• you feel under pressure to do it;
• you trust your partner;
• you can talk to your partner;
• you are sober enough to make the decision;
• you know enough about sex, how it works and potential consequences;
• you know how to protect yourself from pregnancy, STIs and HIV;
• you will regret it later;
• it is in keeping with personal values and beliefs.

If either person is not comfortable or isn’t sure, there is nothing wrong with delaying this important decision and saying no. It is never acceptable for a person to force you into participating in sexual activity if you don’t want to. Deciding to be sexually active can be a stressful decision and can impact on your mental health.

For information on relationship issues visit the ‘Relationships’ section of www.niyouthinfo.org or www.ruthinking.co.uk